In my conversations with people who ask me if I intend on getting bottom surgery, I always state MY opinion and preferences. For ME, bottom surgery outcomes aren’t where I wan’t them to be PERSONALLY. I would prefer a certain size and look that I will not achieve given the current options for bottom surgery.
I feel like some guys get offended because they wish to have bottom surgery by the current methods. I say more power to them, we all should do what we feel works best for us, that being said, I find some people disagree with the reasoning behind my decision to either not get it at all, or hold off until their are new developments in the outcomes of the surgery that satisfy my preferences.
Really, there needs to be less policing of other peoples’ decisions about what they do or don’t want to do to their own bodies in general.
I can’t imagine telling someone who doesn’t want lower surgery that they’re wrong or somehow not trans enough (I guess I can’t imagine ever saying that to anyone, considering, as someone who is non-binary myself, I’ve had that said far too often to me).
I do want lower surgery, but I have my own concerns about the outcomes, particularly with phalloplasty, which is what I’m looking at. Not only is it a major surgery, where you’re going to need to recover from skin grafting, urethral rerouting, etc., but, yeah, it doesn’t necessarily end up functioning exactly like a cisgender male’s anatomy would. I think these should be things anyone looking into lower surgery should be considering, personally. If those factors don’t outweigh the need to feel more comfortable with your own anatomy, that’s completely fine, and start looking into surgeons who will address your needs most closely. If, on the other hand, they do, there’s absolutely nothing wrong with opting not to go the lower surgery route.
My 2 cents.